When under stress, it's common for our minds to gravitate towards extremes - otherwise known as thought polarisation or black-and-white thinking.

Our minds, by default, tend to be reactive, judgmental, and critical - typically towards ourselves. This cognitive cycle can evolve into a self reinforcing pattern.

There is, however, a part of our minds that is reflective, considerate, and understanding. It's the part that challenges assumptions, remains curious about alternatives, dislikes change but sees opportunity in it nonetheless.

While one side catastrophises every situation, the other seeks clarification and balance.To navigate through this mental tug-of-war effectively, it's crucial to cultivate self-assertiveness and self-assurance.

By acknowledging both aspects of our psyche - the critical and the compassionate - we can strive for a more balanced approach to our thoughts and actions.